Well this is perhaps one of the biggest and controversial question in BDSM - Who controls a session? One cannot answer this question and have everyone agreeing to this - people will have their own opinions though a much broader audience will think that the dom/domme controls a session, but in truth actually the submissive controls the session. Be it a safeword driven session, a one-off session, or a hardcore professional session it is always the submissive which sets the limit and draws the line along which the dom/domme plays.
Well it looks quite contradictory if you draw your opinion from the hardcore bdsm or whipping videos where it seems that the dom/domme is very much incharge - to some extent he is. And isnt bdsm all about that - Making someone else incharge of you? Its not the incharge part which plays the major role but the making or giving part which is decisive. Exactly how much do you wish to give, how much do you wish to take these are the parameters that draws the line.
Safeword is everything, even in a hardcore professional session, and yes also in those training of O videos as well. Believe I have been to a few professional sessions as well, well had to shell quite a few bucks too, but nevertheless was quite enriched learning experience. Even in those you tend to have a formal discussion before you engage in the session - where you discuss your fantasies, limits, experiences and all with the dom/domme who then plays well along those lines. So the next time when you see someone having his ass whipped blue and violet, think again that is probably a trick, there are numerous techniques to achieve that visual effect without hurting much - all about angles and impacts of the blow.
But going back to our original topic - it is fairly important the the submissive draws the line but also important that he does not stay in control. Along safety there must exist trust - if you have laid down your limits next what you should do is trust your dom/domme to abide by them. Because if you try to stay in charge trying to intimidate every now and then you will end up losing the flair and intention alltogether. Because that is what BDSM in core is giving up yourself to the wishes and not whims of someone else - wishes that are mutually discussed and agreed by both the party, and always keep some safe words handy.
Dont forget to compromise a little for your master/mistress's sake - there is nothing more compelling than a satisfied dom/domme - be responsible, be safe, have fun.
-Slave Babai, 14July'10, London.
Wednesday, 14 July 2010
Tuesday, 13 July 2010
BDSM Talks...Part 2
Continued Alyssium's experiences and opinions, really enriching and resourcefull.
Restraints:
Initial Try Outs
Restraints:
Initial Try Outs
BDSM Talks...Part 1
BDSM Talks is a series by allysium a submissive lady who wishes to share her opinions and some safety instructions as well.
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Friday, 2 July 2010
A page from the past
This is one of my assorted experiences from a long time back now, from those times when though being in the lifestyle for quite sometime yet I was weary to grab all opportunities that came my way. Master R was among one of them. A well built non-bengali man who have this kink of having sucked off in his car, we had a lot of conversation before that day but never happened to find time for a meeting. Finally one lucky day our times met with grace and we decided to meet. The whole day before that he insisted on hearing my experiences and what all I can do for him, and more I told more he became eager to see all those.
Finally on the next day as decided I came to saltlake and stood near the petrol pump looking at each passing car anxiously. The short 15 minutes wait felt a long time after which I got a call from master directing me towards his car. I walked smartly and got in as he sped off towards the residential circles of saltlake. On the way we exchanged greetings and he stopped in between to buy some cigerettes, and then finally we started driving and looking for a dark isolated corner, but in the meantime he looked at me and asked me take off my pants. I was startled being ordered something like that in mid road, but also realised that in the car probably no one would notice, so with the help of a little encouragement I took off my pants and undies and tossed it at the back seat. Master glanced at my cock and smiled while still we drove through the veins of saltlake looking for an opt place.
Finally we parked behind a car and the area was a bit dark compared to other places, Master pulled off the engine and then looked at me, he grabbed my head suddenly and pulled it on his crotch. He asked me to sniff his cock well and then unzip his pants and get it out. And after I took his cock out he asked me to worship it properly like a true slave. I started licking his cock from top to bottom, it was smelly and a bit filthy yet I licked at it greedily before taking it in my mouth and giving it the pleasure of my tongue. I could hear master moan as he lighted a cigerette and kept an alert eye around. Suddenly he pushed me up and started the engine and started driving. I looked puzzled but he said that there were some guys coming towards the car. I got afraid but thanked for being out of there. Then for following half an hours we moved around saltlake looking for another suitable place but in vain.
Finally master told that there is an under construction building near his house which is quite isolated and remains dark. So without spending much time we set off for that and reached it within 15 minutes. The area was truly dark and isolated, most of the houses nearby had their lights off, and a nearby street light only could create a gloom. Master parked the car in dark and said that we can actually go in and have fun. He asked me to take off my shirt and get completely naked, then he asked me to get off and follow him in the building. I actually ran off in the building being naked waiting for master to lock the car and join. Next master led me up at the second ground of the building before finding a good place to use.
Once at the second floor master pushed me to one of the pillars and started rubbing his hand all over my naked body, then he pushed me down on my knees and took his cock out shoving it in my mouth roughly which I started sucking without much encouragement. He kept on playing with my hairs, pulling at them occassionally as I kept on at sucking his cock, worshipping it with ultimate dedication. More I sucked at it more he became intense grabbing my hairs rather stiffly and turned to thrust at my face with his cock and moaning uncontrollably. He held my head firm and began slamming his cock in my face abusing me hard before suddenly his cock exploded deep in my mouth spitting a mixture of piss and sperm. He kept on stroking to ensure the last of its drop gets in me which I had no other choice but to swallow.
Finally after relieving himself completely he pulled his pants up and led me back to his car, allowing me to dress up he dropped me at a convinient point but only after making me promise to meet him again to worship his cock and drink his cum.
-Slave Babai.
Finally on the next day as decided I came to saltlake and stood near the petrol pump looking at each passing car anxiously. The short 15 minutes wait felt a long time after which I got a call from master directing me towards his car. I walked smartly and got in as he sped off towards the residential circles of saltlake. On the way we exchanged greetings and he stopped in between to buy some cigerettes, and then finally we started driving and looking for a dark isolated corner, but in the meantime he looked at me and asked me take off my pants. I was startled being ordered something like that in mid road, but also realised that in the car probably no one would notice, so with the help of a little encouragement I took off my pants and undies and tossed it at the back seat. Master glanced at my cock and smiled while still we drove through the veins of saltlake looking for an opt place.
Finally we parked behind a car and the area was a bit dark compared to other places, Master pulled off the engine and then looked at me, he grabbed my head suddenly and pulled it on his crotch. He asked me to sniff his cock well and then unzip his pants and get it out. And after I took his cock out he asked me to worship it properly like a true slave. I started licking his cock from top to bottom, it was smelly and a bit filthy yet I licked at it greedily before taking it in my mouth and giving it the pleasure of my tongue. I could hear master moan as he lighted a cigerette and kept an alert eye around. Suddenly he pushed me up and started the engine and started driving. I looked puzzled but he said that there were some guys coming towards the car. I got afraid but thanked for being out of there. Then for following half an hours we moved around saltlake looking for another suitable place but in vain.
Finally master told that there is an under construction building near his house which is quite isolated and remains dark. So without spending much time we set off for that and reached it within 15 minutes. The area was truly dark and isolated, most of the houses nearby had their lights off, and a nearby street light only could create a gloom. Master parked the car in dark and said that we can actually go in and have fun. He asked me to take off my shirt and get completely naked, then he asked me to get off and follow him in the building. I actually ran off in the building being naked waiting for master to lock the car and join. Next master led me up at the second ground of the building before finding a good place to use.
Once at the second floor master pushed me to one of the pillars and started rubbing his hand all over my naked body, then he pushed me down on my knees and took his cock out shoving it in my mouth roughly which I started sucking without much encouragement. He kept on playing with my hairs, pulling at them occassionally as I kept on at sucking his cock, worshipping it with ultimate dedication. More I sucked at it more he became intense grabbing my hairs rather stiffly and turned to thrust at my face with his cock and moaning uncontrollably. He held my head firm and began slamming his cock in my face abusing me hard before suddenly his cock exploded deep in my mouth spitting a mixture of piss and sperm. He kept on stroking to ensure the last of its drop gets in me which I had no other choice but to swallow.
Finally after relieving himself completely he pulled his pants up and led me back to his car, allowing me to dress up he dropped me at a convinient point but only after making me promise to meet him again to worship his cock and drink his cum.
-Slave Babai.
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